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Inspired by this article and the exact philosophy my boyfriend (unbeknownst to him) lives his life by, as part of our month long self-love series, we present to you, the life-changing magic of not giving a f*&k.
The Life-Changing Magic Of Not Giving A F*$k
If you’re anything like me, you care deeply about many things. Sometimes too many things. Sometimes incredibly insignificant things you should not care so much about like the misplaced comma in the email you just sent, your ex-boyfriend’s new Facebook picture, and the rude barista at Starbucks who *forgot* you like your coffee with cream and TWO sugars.
Here’s the problem with that: Consistently caring about unimportant dramas and life’s meaningless trivialities like whose fault it is, what you should have said in that argument 3 years ago and how many followers “she” currently has on Instagram, not only creates tremendous amounts of unnecessary and avoidable stress and anxiety, it also distracts you from the things that are actually important to you. In other words, giving too many fucks about things you shouldn’t give a fuck about is a complete waste of your precious time and energy.
Adopting an IDGAF attitude:
Just to be clear, adopting an IDGAF attitude is not about giving no fucks whatsoever. Being indifferent to everything all the time is not at all praiseworthy. This is about being more MINDFUL of where you place your fucks, choosing to care about what’s actually important, and reserving your fucks for what truly matters to YOU. Which is—if you think about it—self-love in it’s most fundamental form.
“In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference.” -Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck
Reevaluating our fucks:
Adopting an IDGAF attitude begins with reevaluating our fucks. In other words, getting clear about what we currently get worked up over and getting 100 percent honest with ourselves about whether or not it’s actually WORTH getting worked up about.
In general, you should GAF about: Yourself, your health and wellbeing (it’s not selfish it’s self-love), the present moment (because that’s really the only thing there is), and a handful of other things only YOU get to decide. Ideas include: your family, your friends, the environment, and baby dolphins. On the other hand, what you shouldn’t GAF about is a bit more universal. Read: Haters IDGAF. Limits IDGAF. His opinion I-D-G-A-F.
Adopting this kind of IDGAF attitude changes everything.
Achieving this kind of IDGAF attitude is more difficult, of course — especially as an incredibly caring human being with the very normal innate desire to be liked, loved and accepted by everyone — but really, totally necessary.
While we wish we could provide a super easy and straightforward 5-step system to guide you through the process, to be totally honest, it’s a practice we’re still trying to figure out. For now, radical honesty (self-love), defining our priorities (self-love), committing to those priorities (self-love), and the simple act of observing ourselves without judgement [we repeat: WITHOUT judgement], during times of frustration (mega self-love) is working. This mantra by the queen of unselfish self-love, Danielle LaPorte, also helps: It’s not that I don’t care. I do. It’s that I deeply care about my ___ (sanity, freedom, sleep, etc.). Fill in the meaningful blank.
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